WEBVTT 00:00:04.620 --> 00:00:07.260 Paisley: Hey everybody, welcome back Paisley imperfect here. And 00:00:07.260 --> 00:00:12.060 today, we are going to talk about families some more kind of 00:00:12.060 --> 00:00:14.940 a larger, more eternal scale. And I feel like I should tell 00:00:14.940 --> 00:00:18.480 you how I got to this talk. Got to the one that I ended up 00:00:18.480 --> 00:00:22.940 choosing for today. A few episodes ago, we were talking 00:00:22.940 --> 00:00:29.840 about a different talk by Elder Rasband called do justly love 00:00:29.840 --> 00:00:34.220 mercy. Oh, my goodness, do justly love mercy and walk 00:00:34.220 --> 00:00:40.660 humbly with God. The love mercy part has been stuck in my brain 00:00:40.660 --> 00:00:42.940 ever since. And if you've been hanging around with me long 00:00:42.940 --> 00:00:44.920 enough, you know that if something gets stuck in my 00:00:45.340 --> 00:00:48.100 brain, I gotta get it out. I gotta talk about it. I gotta, I 00:00:48.100 --> 00:00:52.660 gotta get it out. So that is the next little rabbit hole that I 00:00:52.660 --> 00:00:57.040 headed down. And I did just a quick search, actually on the 00:00:57.040 --> 00:01:02.100 church's website for just the phrase love mercy and this talk 00:01:02.100 --> 00:01:07.380 from President oaks popped up. It's from 2009 so he was elder 00:01:07.380 --> 00:01:11.940 Oaks at the time. I may switch back and forth because, I mean, 00:01:11.940 --> 00:01:16.920 I do that anyway, but just a heads up, but I actually 00:01:16.920 --> 00:01:21.080 remember this talk, and I'll tell you why I remembered it. 00:01:24.380 --> 00:01:31.700 It's called, it's called Love and law. And based on the 00:01:31.700 --> 00:01:36.380 information that YouTube gives me on my demographic info, most 00:01:36.380 --> 00:01:42.580 of the people who watch the videos are my age or older, and 00:01:42.580 --> 00:01:46.180 here in the United States. So you may remember, back in 2008 00:01:47.200 --> 00:01:55.120 there was some legislation in California, Prop Eight about 00:01:55.180 --> 00:01:58.660 same sex marriage, trying to legalize same sex marriage in 00:01:58.660 --> 00:02:03.960 California, it was going on the ballot in 2008 and this was the 00:02:03.960 --> 00:02:08.520 first time, and really the only time in my memorable life that 00:02:08.520 --> 00:02:12.360 the church asked us to pick what they considered to be the right 00:02:12.360 --> 00:02:19.020 side of that issue. And if you were living in California, they 00:02:19.020 --> 00:02:22.640 wanted us to do more than just vote, which again, the first and 00:02:22.640 --> 00:02:25.760 only time this has ever happened in my life. So we weren't just 00:02:25.760 --> 00:02:29.180 asked to vote yes on prop eight, we were asked to put signs in 00:02:29.180 --> 00:02:34.580 our yards, stand on street corners with signs and like, 00:02:34.760 --> 00:02:41.080 actually take time off of work and dedicate our time and effort 00:02:41.080 --> 00:02:47.200 into getting the vote out to vote yes for Prop Eight. To say 00:02:47.200 --> 00:02:52.780 that I was uncomfortable doing that is an understatement, but I 00:02:52.780 --> 00:02:57.100 did take a couple days off, and I did what I was what I was 00:02:57.100 --> 00:03:05.340 asked to do. It was uncomfortable. I can't tell you 00:03:05.340 --> 00:03:09.300 how many burritos were thrown at me standing on the street 00:03:09.300 --> 00:03:12.180 corner, how many people honked and threw their drinks out the 00:03:12.180 --> 00:03:18.660 window. It was not a fun experience, and this talk from 00:03:18.660 --> 00:03:22.520 elder oaks was almost a year later. Well, exactly a year 00:03:22.520 --> 00:03:30.260 later, excuse me. And he explained why I did what I did 00:03:30.260 --> 00:03:34.580 in a way that I couldn't articulate at the time. So and 00:03:34.580 --> 00:03:38.000 obviously I'm going to share talks, talks. I'm going to share 00:03:38.000 --> 00:03:41.920 quotes from his talk, just like I always do, but I want to start 00:03:41.920 --> 00:03:48.760 with a simplification of the overall message first. And you 00:03:48.760 --> 00:03:51.760 know how I am? If you've been hanging around for a while, you 00:03:51.760 --> 00:03:55.840 know how I am, I tend to oversimplify things, because 00:03:55.840 --> 00:04:02.460 that's say that things make sense for me. So I hope that I'm 00:04:02.460 --> 00:04:07.560 not too oversimplifying it, but I also feel like we need to make 00:04:07.560 --> 00:04:13.140 this relatable. So to start with, as members of the Church 00:04:13.140 --> 00:04:15.780 of Jesus Christ, of Latter Day Saints, we believe that we are 00:04:15.780 --> 00:04:20.100 literal sons and daughters of God. He is our heavenly Father. 00:04:20.460 --> 00:04:23.900 It's not just another name. We actually believe he is our 00:04:23.900 --> 00:04:27.980 Father who lives in heaven, our heavenly Father, our Father in 00:04:27.980 --> 00:04:37.100 heaven. We and together, we are one giant family. In my opinion, 00:04:37.100 --> 00:04:39.980 the 10 to 20% of our brain, depending on who you ask these 00:04:39.980 --> 00:04:43.660 days, that we actually use cannot fully comprehend what 00:04:43.660 --> 00:04:49.960 that means. So some of it, we just have to take on faith. We 00:04:49.960 --> 00:04:54.700 have to take on faith that there is a God for some of us, some of 00:04:54.700 --> 00:04:57.760 us have to take on faith that there is a God and that we are 00:04:57.760 --> 00:05:01.620 his literal sons and daughters. I. But I'm digressing just a 00:05:01.620 --> 00:05:06.060 little bit. Let's simplify so we are God's children, the same way 00:05:06.060 --> 00:05:12.420 that our children are our children, and as parents, within 00:05:12.420 --> 00:05:16.980 our homes, within our families, we have rules. I don't know what 00:05:16.980 --> 00:05:19.080 those rules look like for you, and I'm not here to tell you 00:05:19.080 --> 00:05:22.520 what rules you should make in your house or have for your 00:05:22.520 --> 00:05:29.660 family. That's not my job. I will tell you that one of our 00:05:29.660 --> 00:05:34.040 house rules is that you eat your dinner, and if there's dessert 00:05:34.040 --> 00:05:39.380 afterwards, you get some, but only if you ate all of your 00:05:39.380 --> 00:05:46.300 dinner. Now there's a sister rule to this, no snacks after 00:05:46.300 --> 00:05:52.300 two because every single time my girls eat something after two 00:05:52.300 --> 00:05:56.680 o'clock, they have a really hard time eating their dinner. And if 00:05:56.680 --> 00:05:59.920 we have dessert, it's something I know they're really going to 00:05:59.920 --> 00:06:02.580 like, or something that they've never tried, that I think 00:06:02.580 --> 00:06:06.960 they're really going to like. So I buy this yummy dessert, or I 00:06:06.960 --> 00:06:09.660 make this yummy dessert. And I mean, frankly, sometimes it's 00:06:09.660 --> 00:06:15.000 just a really yummy mango, or in the summertime, some really ripe 00:06:15.000 --> 00:06:18.780 watermelon or something really tasty that we have for dessert. 00:06:21.180 --> 00:06:25.700 If we have dessert, it's not an every night thing. So before you 00:06:25.700 --> 00:06:29.900 start judging me, just know a lot of times it's fruit. I'm 00:06:29.900 --> 00:06:35.900 digressing again. So I buy the dessert, or I make the dessert 00:06:35.960 --> 00:06:41.800 that I really believe that my kids will just love, and in 00:06:41.800 --> 00:06:45.100 order for them to get it, we all know they have to eat their 00:06:45.100 --> 00:06:50.200 dinner. So don't eat a snack after two o'clock, because then 00:06:50.200 --> 00:06:52.480 you won't eat your dinner and you won't get the cmmy dessert. 00:06:53.140 --> 00:06:57.460 So there's a process, there's a there's this whole thing in 00:06:57.460 --> 00:07:02.040 mind, because I know they're gonna love this, and I got it 00:07:02.040 --> 00:07:04.320 for them because I love them, and I know that they're gonna 00:07:04.320 --> 00:07:14.160 love it, right? So as parents, we create these rules, and we 00:07:14.160 --> 00:07:17.940 create them based on our own experiences, things that we've 00:07:17.940 --> 00:07:21.140 read, things we've been through, and we create them with the hope 00:07:21.140 --> 00:07:25.400 that someday our kids will be able to have what we have and 00:07:25.400 --> 00:07:28.640 more. Most of us want for our kids to be able to have more 00:07:28.640 --> 00:07:35.180 than what we have, and as grown ups, some of us are want to be 00:07:35.180 --> 00:07:41.320 grown ups. As grown ups, we our vision is broader. We see a 00:07:41.320 --> 00:07:49.240 bigger picture than they do, and we know that if they if they 00:07:49.240 --> 00:07:53.920 don't eat their meat and vegetables for dinner, all they 00:07:53.920 --> 00:08:00.420 eat is the sugar, then they're going to turn into very 00:08:00.480 --> 00:08:07.200 unhealthy and very unhappy adults. So we we put these rules 00:08:07.200 --> 00:08:09.660 in place because we love our kids and we want what's best for 00:08:09.660 --> 00:08:14.700 them. And if I let my seven year old, or if I let one of my five 00:08:14.700 --> 00:08:18.000 year olds pick dinner, we would just have dessert for dinner 00:08:18.000 --> 00:08:22.340 every night. We would have ice cream all the time. We can't do 00:08:22.340 --> 00:08:30.380 that. We again. We do this because we love them and we want 00:08:30.920 --> 00:08:34.760 everything in the world for them, right? Sometimes we have 00:08:34.760 --> 00:08:37.340 to say no, because we know that what they're asking for, what 00:08:37.340 --> 00:08:40.780 they want, what they're wishing for, what they're hoping for. We 00:08:40.780 --> 00:08:46.180 have to say no because they didn't follow the rule, or 00:08:46.180 --> 00:08:49.360 because we know that it's unhealthy for them, or because 00:08:49.360 --> 00:08:53.020 we can see what's going to happen next, because maybe we've 00:08:53.020 --> 00:09:00.040 been through that before, and so we just we do our best to create 00:09:00.700 --> 00:09:05.760 rules laws in our own home and within our own family, so that 00:09:05.760 --> 00:09:10.860 we can help them get to their best life. Our heavenly Father 00:09:10.860 --> 00:09:15.840 is no different. He has rules too, and he put those rules into 00:09:15.840 --> 00:09:18.960 place before we ever even came here. And he put those rules 00:09:18.960 --> 00:09:21.980 into place because he wants that yummy dessert for us, and that 00:09:21.980 --> 00:09:24.800 yummy dessert for us is eternal life, which is to live with our 00:09:24.800 --> 00:09:29.300 family forever, to live with the people that we love, the people 00:09:29.300 --> 00:09:32.420 that we cherish, forever and ever and ever, to be back with 00:09:32.420 --> 00:09:39.860 our Father in Heaven again, and to have all that he has. So he's 00:09:39.860 --> 00:09:42.700 got this yummy dessert for us, and he's created these rules 00:09:42.880 --> 00:09:45.040 that we have to follow to be able to get to this yummy 00:09:45.040 --> 00:09:48.280 dessert. So just like I make my kids eat their veggies and their 00:09:48.280 --> 00:09:51.340 meat or whatever it is that I make for dinner before they can 00:09:51.340 --> 00:09:54.220 have the sweet, sugary dessert that I know that they will love, 00:09:54.220 --> 00:09:56.800 our father does the same with us, except that instead of the 00:09:56.800 --> 00:10:01.140 sugary treat, we're talking eternal life. Right? We have to 00:10:01.140 --> 00:10:03.420 follow the rules to get to the sugar retreat. But 00:10:04.680 --> 00:10:09.840 there's also this thing called agency. An agency makes it so 00:10:09.840 --> 00:10:13.380 that we have to do more than just follow the rules. We need 00:10:13.380 --> 00:10:19.140 to choose to follow the rules, and both you and I, we are free 00:10:19.140 --> 00:10:25.100 to choose not to follow the rules. My girls have this habit 00:10:25.100 --> 00:10:27.740 of asking me when we sit down to dinner and they look at what 00:10:27.740 --> 00:10:31.520 I've made, if they don't think they're going to like it, 00:10:31.520 --> 00:10:36.680 they'll say, Mom, are we having dessert tonight? Because they 00:10:36.680 --> 00:10:40.960 know that if they don't have dessert, if there's nothing, 00:10:40.960 --> 00:10:46.600 there's no incentive, maybe they don't want to eat that dinner. 00:10:46.600 --> 00:10:52.840 We've had to get creative with our responses, but I bring that 00:10:52.840 --> 00:10:57.820 up to be to try and make it clear that you and I are free to 00:10:57.820 --> 00:11:03.900 choose to not have dessert. Heavenly Father is not going to 00:11:03.900 --> 00:11:09.240 take away your agency. You can choose to not have dessert, and 00:11:09.240 --> 00:11:12.300 you can choose to say no thank you when the dessert is placed 00:11:12.300 --> 00:11:16.500 in front of you. Or you can choose to say, I'm going to pass 00:11:16.500 --> 00:11:20.360 on that because I don't like this rule. I don't like dinner 00:11:20.360 --> 00:11:26.360 enough, but I'm gonna go ahead and pass on the dessert too, and 00:11:26.360 --> 00:11:34.040 my girls will do that sometimes. Okay, here's a quote from from 00:11:34.040 --> 00:11:37.580 elder then elder oaks in that talk, he said Every parent knows 00:11:37.580 --> 00:11:41.380 that you can love a child totally and completely while 00:11:41.380 --> 00:11:45.820 still being creatively angry and disappointed at that child's 00:11:45.820 --> 00:11:51.340 self defeating behavior. So one of my three girls refuses to 00:11:51.340 --> 00:11:55.240 even try new food. Every once in a while, she'll forget that this 00:11:55.240 --> 00:11:58.120 is her thing, and she'll accidentally try something and 00:11:58.120 --> 00:12:02.100 usually like it. Just last night, actually, we were having 00:12:02.100 --> 00:12:04.320 leftovers, and there were some leftover chow mein in the 00:12:04.320 --> 00:12:07.200 fridge, and so I had some on my plate, and she looked at it, and 00:12:07.200 --> 00:12:10.620 she was like, Ooh, those noodles, mom, they smell really 00:12:10.620 --> 00:12:15.780 good. I want some of your noodles. And I was like, Well, 00:12:15.780 --> 00:12:18.360 that's nice. And she said, can I please have some of your 00:12:18.360 --> 00:12:21.380 noodles? So I picked up a noodle, and I put it on her 00:12:21.380 --> 00:12:26.000 plate, and she kind of, she's also my super sarcastic girl. 00:12:26.600 --> 00:12:30.980 She's like, what one noodle? And I said, Try that one first, and 00:12:30.980 --> 00:12:34.220 if you like that one, I'll give you some more. And she wasn't 00:12:34.220 --> 00:12:37.760 even thinking about it. And put it in her mouth, it did not 00:12:37.760 --> 00:12:40.660 occur to her that she had never tried it before, because up 00:12:40.660 --> 00:12:43.420 until this point, she had refused to try it. She just 00:12:43.420 --> 00:12:48.220 wanted to have the same fried rice every time. So she puts 00:12:48.220 --> 00:12:51.580 this piece of she puts this chow mein noodle in her mouth. She's 00:12:51.580 --> 00:13:01.680 five, almost six, and I just kind of looked at her, and she 00:13:01.680 --> 00:13:05.760 chewed it up, she swallowed it, and she goes, Mom, why have you 00:13:05.760 --> 00:13:11.040 never let me try chow mein before? That's yummy. And like I 00:13:11.040 --> 00:13:15.000 said, her sarcasm level is like a level 10. And so I just kind 00:13:15.000 --> 00:13:19.500 of looked at her like, Excuse me, and she just busted up 00:13:19.500 --> 00:13:22.700 laughing. And now all of a sudden, she just loves chow 00:13:22.700 --> 00:13:27.800 mein. I knew that she would have loved it a long time ago, but 00:13:27.800 --> 00:13:33.860 she wouldn't try it. She has her agency to not try chow mein and 00:13:33.860 --> 00:13:38.720 eat her fried rice. We have agency to choose not to follow 00:13:38.720 --> 00:13:43.660 the rules. If we don't want to, that's fine. You don't have to. 00:13:43.660 --> 00:13:50.500 I mean, it's not fine. It's only not fine. From from a parent's 00:13:50.500 --> 00:13:53.980 perspective, how sad does it make you when your kids choose 00:13:53.980 --> 00:13:56.860 not to follow the rules, when you know they're gonna love that 00:13:56.860 --> 00:14:03.300 yummy treat anyway? Okay? So to continue with elder oaks. The 00:14:03.300 --> 00:14:07.620 love of God is so universal that his perfect plan bestows many 00:14:07.620 --> 00:14:10.680 gifts on all of his children, even those who disobey His laws. 00:14:10.980 --> 00:14:15.240 Okay, so let me back up just a second. Her choosing not to like 00:14:15.240 --> 00:14:18.480 chow mein, or her choosing not to taste chow mein does not make 00:14:18.480 --> 00:14:25.700 me like. Love her any less I still love her. I am kind of 00:14:25.700 --> 00:14:28.280 disappointed that my kids didn't finish their dinner tonight so 00:14:28.280 --> 00:14:33.380 they couldn't have dessert, but it doesn't make me love them any 00:14:33.380 --> 00:14:38.000 less. I still love them just as much as I do all of the time, 00:14:39.080 --> 00:14:42.220 and our Heavenly Father is the same. So that quote from elder 00:14:42.220 --> 00:14:45.880 oaks, again, the love of God is so universal that his perfect 00:14:45.880 --> 00:14:49.660 plan bestows many gifts on all of his children, even those who 00:14:49.660 --> 00:14:53.200 disobey his loss. And he gives a couple of examples. So these are 00:14:53.200 --> 00:14:57.820 blessings that are given to everybody, no matter what this 00:14:57.820 --> 00:15:00.900 is the this is the dinner part, right? Dinner is a blessing. 00:15:01.260 --> 00:15:05.220 They get dinner every night. Excuse me, we just finished 00:15:05.220 --> 00:15:08.880 dinner, so I'm hiccuping a little bit. They get dinner 00:15:08.880 --> 00:15:14.700 every night. That's a blessing. They get it whether they want it 00:15:14.700 --> 00:15:20.360 or not, while not everybody will get the dessert. Everybody does 00:15:20.360 --> 00:15:24.380 get the dinner back to the quote, mortality is one such 00:15:24.380 --> 00:15:27.200 gift bestowed on all who qualified in the war in heaven. 00:15:27.740 --> 00:15:31.160 Another unconditional gift is the universe universal 00:15:31.160 --> 00:15:35.000 resurrection. Many other mortal gifts are not tied to our 00:15:35.000 --> 00:15:38.600 personal obedience to law. As Jesus taught, our heavenly 00:15:38.600 --> 00:15:42.820 Father, maketh his son to rise on the evil and on the good and 00:15:42.820 --> 00:15:45.940 send a rain on the just and on the unjust, quoting Matthew 545, 00:15:48.220 --> 00:15:51.880 so some blessings, some gifts, are just given. They're not 00:15:51.940 --> 00:15:55.600 something that we have to earn. But there are others that are 00:15:55.600 --> 00:15:59.500 not just handed over. Those are the ones that we have to earn, 00:15:59.560 --> 00:16:04.920 and we earn those by following the rules, God's rules, and this 00:16:04.920 --> 00:16:08.340 is when our agency comes in. So elder oaks, he quotes Doctrine 00:16:08.340 --> 00:16:12.540 and Covenants. Section 130, verses, 20 through 21 it says 00:16:12.540 --> 00:16:16.200 there is a law irrevocably decreed in heaven before the 00:16:16.200 --> 00:16:19.740 foundations of this world, upon which all blessings are 00:16:19.740 --> 00:16:24.440 predicated. So before I go on, I need to point something out. The 00:16:24.440 --> 00:16:28.040 law was made in heaven before the foundations of this world. I 00:16:28.040 --> 00:16:31.220 mentioned that a little bit earlier, our existence on this 00:16:31.220 --> 00:16:35.360 planet is proof that we chose to follow the law, and that that's 00:16:35.660 --> 00:16:38.540 going to come up again in a little bit. So back to the 00:16:38.540 --> 00:16:41.080 Scripture. There is a law irrevocably decreed in heaven 00:16:41.080 --> 00:16:43.540 before the foundations of this world, upon which all blessings 00:16:43.540 --> 00:16:49.660 are predicated. And when we obey any or sorry, when we obtain any 00:16:49.660 --> 00:16:53.500 blessing from God, it is by obedience to that law upon which 00:16:53.500 --> 00:16:57.940 it is predicated. So there are some blessings that we only get 00:16:58.420 --> 00:17:05.520 if we follow the associated law. Then President oaks says this 00:17:05.520 --> 00:17:08.640 great principle helps us understand the why of many 00:17:08.640 --> 00:17:12.540 things like justice and mercy balanced by the atonement. It 00:17:12.540 --> 00:17:16.560 also explains why God will not forestall the exercise of agency 00:17:16.560 --> 00:17:20.780 by his children. Agency, our power to choose, is fundamental 00:17:20.780 --> 00:17:24.260 to the gospel plan that brings us to earth. God does not 00:17:24.260 --> 00:17:27.200 intervene to forestall the consequences of some persons 00:17:27.200 --> 00:17:31.400 choices in order to protect the well being of other persons, 00:17:31.700 --> 00:17:35.600 even when they kill, injure or oppress one another, for this 00:17:35.600 --> 00:17:40.720 would destroy his plan for our eternal progress, He will bless 00:17:40.720 --> 00:17:44.440 us, to endure the consequences of others choices, but he will 00:17:44.440 --> 00:17:50.020 not prevent those choice those choices. So again, you do not 00:17:50.020 --> 00:17:52.900 have to choose dessert. The people around you do not have to 00:17:52.900 --> 00:17:55.840 choose dessert. If you don't like the dessert, you don't have 00:17:55.840 --> 00:17:58.840 to finish your dinner. Or you can choose to finish your dinner 00:17:58.840 --> 00:18:02.340 and still say no thank you to dessert, that choice is yours. 00:18:02.940 --> 00:18:06.000 Your choice will likely affect other people. We've talked about 00:18:06.000 --> 00:18:09.240 that before too our choices we don't make our choices in a 00:18:09.240 --> 00:18:12.360 vacuum. We are surrounded by people who love us, and our 00:18:12.360 --> 00:18:16.500 choices affect others. Period, whether you like it or not, our 00:18:16.500 --> 00:18:21.140 choices affect other people. Here's the part that the world, 00:18:21.140 --> 00:18:24.440 in my opinion, is confused about. So do you remember what 00:18:24.440 --> 00:18:27.380 we read about in Doctrine and Covenants, that the law was 00:18:27.380 --> 00:18:33.440 created before the world was remember that rule that the kids 00:18:33.440 --> 00:18:37.880 have to eat dinner before their dessert? Well, my kids are free 00:18:37.880 --> 00:18:43.780 to think that that rule is dumb, and they do that's their choice. 00:18:44.200 --> 00:18:48.640 What is not their choice is the rule itself. They can tell me 00:18:48.640 --> 00:18:52.240 it's dumb, but I've been around a lot longer than they have, and 00:18:52.240 --> 00:18:56.620 I know a lot more than they do. I know enough to know that 00:18:56.620 --> 00:19:01.560 eating ice cream and cookies and candy all day every day, will 00:19:01.560 --> 00:19:06.900 not only make you sick, but repeatedly, you're gonna end up 00:19:07.440 --> 00:19:12.360 obese with type two diabetes and heart problems. They are seven, 00:19:12.360 --> 00:19:19.800 five and five. They don't know that. Again, they can tell me 00:19:19.860 --> 00:19:26.360 that the rule is dumb, and I will listen and President oaks 00:19:26.360 --> 00:19:30.020 remember how he put it, I will still love them totally and 00:19:30.080 --> 00:19:33.860 completely, while being creatively annoyed and 00:19:33.860 --> 00:19:37.760 disappointed at their self defeating behavior. I still love 00:19:37.760 --> 00:19:41.500 them when they break the rules, when they tell me the rules are 00:19:41.500 --> 00:19:46.480 dumb, I still love them. God still loves us. When we tell him 00:19:46.480 --> 00:19:50.980 that his rules are dumb, and when we say no, thank you to 00:19:50.980 --> 00:19:55.180 dessert. By breaking the rules, he still loves us. The Love 00:19:55.180 --> 00:19:59.200 doesn't go anywhere. Here's my favorite quote from that talk. 00:19:59.200 --> 00:19:59.320 It 00:19:59.320 --> 00:20:02.760 happens to be. The little blurb at the very top, it says, The 00:20:02.760 --> 00:20:07.680 love of God does not supersede His laws and His commandments, 00:20:08.040 --> 00:20:12.360 and the effect of God's laws and commandments does not diminish 00:20:12.420 --> 00:20:18.180 the purpose and effect of His love. I created the Eat your 00:20:18.180 --> 00:20:21.500 dinner rule because I love my girls and I want for them to 00:20:21.500 --> 00:20:28.040 live long, happy lives in the best way possible. The 00:20:28.040 --> 00:20:34.580 consequences. I created that rule because I love them. I gave 00:20:34.580 --> 00:20:37.880 them the consequences because I also love them. You don't get 00:20:37.880 --> 00:20:42.220 the sugar without the healthy that's the consequence. And I 00:20:42.220 --> 00:20:47.320 don't love them any less for hating on the rule. I still love 00:20:47.320 --> 00:20:51.580 them. I also don't hate them any less for not accepting the 00:20:51.580 --> 00:20:58.780 dessert I still love them. And listen, I know we could go down 00:20:58.780 --> 00:21:02.640 a million different rabbit holes, because there are 1000s 00:21:02.640 --> 00:21:06.900 upon 1000s about what about this, what about this? There are 00:21:07.080 --> 00:21:10.560 hundreds of those things, 1000s that we could talk about. What 00:21:10.560 --> 00:21:14.280 about this situation? Or what about this scenario? I'm not 00:21:14.280 --> 00:21:18.600 going to do that. Please go read elder oaks talk because he does 00:21:18.600 --> 00:21:23.600 give some examples, and he gives some very he gives some examples 00:21:23.600 --> 00:21:27.680 that are probably better than the Eat your dinner example that 00:21:27.680 --> 00:21:32.300 I shared. So please go read his whole talk. I'll make sure that 00:21:32.300 --> 00:21:35.660 it's linked. But in its simplest form, though, I believe it's 00:21:35.660 --> 00:21:40.780 just that rules and consequences were created out of love to get 00:21:40.780 --> 00:21:45.220 us to the sweet treat at the end. We are the children in this 00:21:45.220 --> 00:21:49.360 scenario, and we don't make the rules, we don't make the rules, 00:21:49.360 --> 00:21:52.300 and we don't have the authority to change them, and it doesn't 00:21:52.300 --> 00:21:58.540 matter how many people we get on our side, we don't get to change 00:21:58.540 --> 00:22:05.100 the rules. His vision is bigger and broader than ours is he 00:22:05.100 --> 00:22:10.980 knows more than we do. Sometimes we just have to trust but we 00:22:10.980 --> 00:22:15.240 don't get to change the rules. We don't get to tell him how 00:22:15.240 --> 00:22:19.920 things are going to be. That rule is already created, and we 00:22:19.920 --> 00:22:24.020 can fight against it. We have our agency to do that. We can 00:22:24.020 --> 00:22:28.520 fight against those rules, but it's not going to earn us that 00:22:28.520 --> 00:22:33.800 sweet treat in the end. Doesn't make it any easier. I'm not 00:22:33.800 --> 00:22:38.720 saying that it's easy. It is simple. In my opinion, it is 00:22:38.720 --> 00:22:43.240 simple and straightforward, and that's a little bit of a heavy 00:22:43.240 --> 00:22:46.780 one for today, but it's okay. We can handle heavy stuff, right? 00:22:47.200 --> 00:22:50.080 Thank you for being here with me again today. Keep learning, keep 00:22:50.080 --> 00:22:53.680 growing, keep trying, and be of good cheer. Thank you so much, 00:22:53.680 --> 00:22:55.000 everybody. Until next time you.